coparenting – The life of coparenting with a narssasist

A very extended family.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when my bonus kid’s mom teaches them they don’t have any other siblings or family besides her and them. I am married to their father. I have kid’s. We are not just some fling. I wish she would just accept that the kids have step family. My bioContinue reading “A very extended family.”

Days like this make me want to cry

First off, let me apologize for not posting the last few days. As you can imagine, life is hectic when you have teens and toddlers. Tonight was transition night.. if I had to rate them, tonight was probably the worst so far. Upsetting to say the least but also confirming and eye opening. Backstory.. lastContinue reading “Days like this make me want to cry”

My two roles

I am a bio mom to 3 amazing kiddos. Ages 19, almost 18 and 16. My bio kids and I lived and survived abuse endured at the hands of their bio father. We have learned over the years that abuse takes many forms and it changes you. This change does not have to be aContinue reading “My two roles”

Psychological impact

For many families, separation is hard on everyone involved. The kids, both parents and the extended family. This manifests in different way for different people. My bio kids and I are lifers when it comes to therapy. We have spent years benefitting from services. Sometimes as parents we don’t know exactly how to help ourContinue reading “Psychological impact”

Parental allientation

Today is parental allientation awareness day. Not a lot of people truly understand what this means. It’s IS abuse in the most terrible form. It mentally twists a young mind into confusion and leaves them with guilt that lasts a lifetime. People often talk about the more obvious displays of alienation but what they don’tContinue reading “Parental allientation”

Transition anxiety

Today is transition day for the bonus kids. Transition days are always a day of mixed feelings. Excitement and anticipation to see the kiddos again. With a sense of anxiety because we never know how they will be when we get them. Will they be happy an excited to see us? Or will they beContinue reading “Transition anxiety”

Step mommy

This is what I sent last weekend doing woth my step kids. Making homemade mothers day gifts for their birth mom. A birth mom who demands that the kids only call me by my name and every chance she gets ,she degrades me to them. Honestly I feel sorry that she didn’t get to seeContinue reading “Step mommy”

Why is coparenting so hard to comprehend?

I honestly don’t understand why it is so hard for people to coparent. When you have a child and chose to no longer be in a relationship with the other parent(no matter the reason) you then forfeit your right to be involved 24/7 with your child. Your child will now have time with you andContinue reading “Why is coparenting so hard to comprehend?”

Just when you think it can’t get crazier

Yesterday was a day if true revelations for me and my husband. Although we already knew that Marie had a serious control issue when it comes to the kids and hinged on mentally unstable. I was honestly still shocked by the ridiculousness of the conversation. So, my husband messaged Marie on the app we useContinue reading “Just when you think it can’t get crazier”

Parenting plan gone bad

For months I kept telling my husband, just wait till we have a court order, she (marie)will hang herself with all the games she plays. Having dealt with numerous witholding the children, denying contact, refusing to communicate and coparent, a child abuseninvestigation on mom, I really hoped the court order would make her(marie) shape upContinue reading “Parenting plan gone bad”