Days like this make me want to cry

First off, let me apologize for not posting the last few days. As you can imagine, life is hectic when you have teens and toddlers. Tonight was transition night.. if I had to rate them, tonight was probably the worst so far. Upsetting to say the least but also confirming and eye opening. Backstory.. last few pick ups for the twins, Aaron has been sad and tearful. One might think oh that’s normal for a toddler at transition. Normally I would agree but neither of the kids have been like that since around january.. they are normally happy to see me and their dad, even on days that they haven’t napped and are cranky. I couldn’t quote put my finger on it but I knew somthing was going on.. well you add in the phrases that Aarom has been repeating from his mom’s house and the nightmares every night for both the twins and I figured there was some alienation occuring. Little did I know how blaten it was until today. As I walked down to get the kids from their mom and grandmother, Aaron asked where his dad was. I have been doing Transition to avoid any interactions between their mom and my husband because of false alligations she has made.. Tonight Aarons grandma turned to him and responded with,” I dont know why your dad never comes to get you anymore. ” let’s just say that lit a fire under me. I turned to the kids grandma and said ,”you need to shut you mouth. “She looked at me shocked and said,” excuse me?”. I look her dead in her face and said,” that is parental allienation, knock it off.” Both the kids mom and grandma both argued with me that it was not. I told them they were incorrect and I suggest they do some research. In the midst of this conversation, the kids were already in the process of grabbing my hand to walk away. The kids grandma proceeded to pick Aaron back up, wrapping his hand out of mine and showering him with kisses and hugs and telling him how much she would miss him. In unison, Marie picked Harper back up, also wrapping her hand from mine and doing the same with her. After 3 solid minutes of this love bombing, they proceeded to let the kids leave with me. I honestly was in shock at how blaten it all was. Standing there in the middle of the police department parking lot, they alienated and love bombed these kids right in front of me. I kept my composure and turned to walk away when Marie asked why my husband was not there for transition. I simply stated because of your false alligations. Marie then responded with,” they aren’t false,”. I told her this was not the time nor the place for this conversation in front of the kids and turned and walked back towards our vehicle. The twins and I paused to jump in some mud puddles and laugh before loading into the car. My husband promptly received a message from Marie that read,” if you are physically able to do transition then you must do it. Proxies are only for if your physically unable to be there.” This is not what the parenting plan states in actuality and his response to her was exactly this. Now, here is my mindset. She makes false alligationd against him yet she wants him to be in her presence. If she is afraid and feels “unsafe” around him then why would she want him there? This had been a continuous issue for her. Since the beginning of their separation he had always had someone with him at transition to witness and that’s for his security given that she had always made up lies about him. She had always complained about him having someone accompany him. Since my husband and I have been together, I have been the one who attends and I usually sit in the car and listen in to ensure everything is OK. Since the last time the kids came over repeating that their mom was telling them daddy hits her and me, we decided that we would not leave any chance for contact on any level in person for her to make that claim and that we would be able to say to the kids, daddy hasn’t been around Marie so that’s not possible. So we could squash any lies she was telling them. Therefore, I have been doing transition while he sits in the car. Now any normal person would think, if someone was abusive to you and your scared of them, why would you push to be alone with them so much? Why would you risk putting yourself in that position? This is precisely precisely evidence that shows how manipulative Marie is and