Just when you think it can’t get crazier

Yesterday was a day if true revelations for me and my husband. Although we already knew that Marie had a serious control issue when it comes to the kids and hinged on mentally unstable. I was honestly still shocked by the ridiculousness of the conversation. So, my husband messaged Marie on the app we use to coparent. Told her that we were coming to the daycare to get their daughters glasses to have them repaired the next morning. We were bringing another pair she has so she would not be left without her proper Eyewear. Marie proceeds to tell my husband that he can not enter the building or interact with the kids because it is her parenting time. (Marie works in the 1 yr old class at the daycare) my husband told Marie that he was bringing the glasses to exchange them and that the kids were in daycare and not under her care. Daycare is considered educational which means he has every right to enter the daycare if he wants. Marie then had the audacity to tell my husband that if he had any interaction with the kids when he came to bring their daughter her glasses, that he would have to reimburse her for the parenting time he took. Here’s my issue with this, they aren’t under her care and in a daycare so it is educational which he is entitled to. For two, he is ensuring their child has proper working eyewear and she made it all about her and her time. She would rather their child have broken eye wear than allow him to come and bring her replacements. Just because she can’t handle him having any extra time around the kids. So she would rather neglect their daughters need for eyewear than allow him contact for 5 minutes.. Then as ridiculous as this situation already is, Marie proceeded to pull the kids out of daycare early that day and leave work early to avoid allowing my husband to exchange the glasses. This speaks volumes to us on what she prioritizes when it comes to the kids. When my husband called the daycare to let them know he would be coming by, he was informed that she was leaving with the kids. When my husband was informed of this, he contacted Marie and said he would not be coming by to exchange the glasses and would reschedule the appointment because he did not want to upset the kids by having to explain they could not come with him and he did not feel it would be appropriate to have to reimburse Marie for the short time he was providing medical devices to his child. He also asked that because she was leaving work early and would have more time in the day, could he please have a short video call with the kids. Marie then proceeded to accuse him of stalking her and told him that she and the kids were busy and did not have time for a video call. So, in one day Marie has chosen to violate 3 areas of the legal parenting plan my husband and her have. 1-Refusal to be involved in maintaining health of his child.2- refusing him access to their education and facility of education. 3-refusal of telephone access. As well she made accusations and derogatory statements which are counter productive to coparenting. This is the norm unfortunatly. How is this suppose to work as the kids get older. Will she refuse to allow dad at school events because it’s her time? How vindictive can you be to not allow the other parent to provide your child with proper eyewear because you can’t handle them being around your child for more than the time “you” allow.? You would sarafice your child’s wellbeing for your own selfish control? Then add the paranoia of accusing dad of stalking her. Not once has my husband done anything remotely vindictive, controlling or abusive to this woman and she continuously makes these accusations